Character Tuesday: When You Can’t Force Them To Care

After reading New York Times article “‘They are Slaughtering Us Like Animals,'” I send it to a former Filipina coworker. “What do you think of this?” I asked her, expecting to hear strong opposition. This was the same coworker who had explained who Duterte was, long before he was elected. She was also the person who told me about Ferdinand E. Marcos, the 1972-1981 dictator, and his devastating mandate of Martial Law, where thousands of people were imprisoned, tortured and disappeared. She sighed as she explained that many of her millennial peers fail to comprehend the tragedy of this era.

Later, she finally texts back. “That’s old news,” she writes, “That’s been happening since July.” I was surprised that such a nonchalant statement was all she told me. Maybe she was distraught herself, or maybe just busy. Tone isn’t conveyed well through text. I decided to go further. “Well,” I asked her, “What do you think about it? Are you upset? Are you scared?”

She never responded.

This post is part of weekly series titled Character Tuesday, where every Tuesday I bring you a story about (a) unique individual(s) I’ve encountered. Like I always say, life can be good or bad, but as long as it’s entertaining, that’s all you need. This series is meant to celebrate our quirks and idiosyncrasies.


Featured photo: The cuartel in Oslob, Philippines. Photo originally appeared in this post.

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Character Tuesday: Moalboal’s Goofiest 12-Year-Old Street Vendor

The air was sticky. It wasn’t even the rainy season, but the humidity felt like the inside of a Japanese onsen. The sun shone over the dark water, tinted by the millions of sardine schools underneath its surface. There were a group of three toddlers screaming and pointing to a kite in the sky, as one of the boys- the ring leader- repeated the same word over and over again, nodding and widening his eyes at the others as he did.

My sister and walked through the dirt-floored alley way of tourist restaurants and kiosks that opened up to a view of the ocean. There was a concrete wall against the water’s edge where children were playing. Beyond the walkway we saw women giving massages to European men at the top of a hill.

“Souvenirs!” we heard a girl scream behind us. We turned around and saw a petite, girl with a bob haircut. She was wearing a bright shirt and skirt and holding a basket close to her shoulder like it was a serving tray. We said “hello” and said “no thank you.”

Then, my sister uncharacteristically changed her mind. “Ah, well,” she sighed with a shrug, “Why not? I’ll see what you have.”

I was mostly distracted by the children playing nearby, thinking about how cute they were, screaming at each other in a language I couldn’t understand. I glanced over at the trinkets my sister was touching. There were plastic turtles, beaded bracelets and other things that looked cheap and frivolous. These were the type of products that you would feel guilty for not buying, but later would realize such a purchase does nothing to advance you attempt at a minimalist lifestyle with less junk. (Plus, there are thousands of reasons why not to buy from a minor!)

“Yeah, well, I don’t really like anything here,” my sister told her honestly. The child vendor resisted a bit, trying to convince us, then shrugged and walked in front of us.

Walking a few feet further, she had a trail of followers- younger girls, probably apprentices- and she giggled. She turned back at us with the other hand on her shaking hip, bobbed her head around and sang, “I’m sexy and I know it!” then promptly turned away again, laughing with the sound of a 50-year-old wrinkled smoker. .

My sister and I exchanged smiles and laughed, walking behind her with the sound of the waves against the wall.

This post is part of weekly series titled Character Tuesday, where every Tuesday I bring you a story about (a) unique individual(s) I’ve encountered. Like I always say, life can be good or bad, but as long as it’s entertaining, that’s all you need. This series is meant to celebrate our quirks and idiosyncrasies.


Featured photo: These kids in Oslob ran up to us and started screaming, “HELLO HOW ARE YOU!” Then a woman on the street had to intervene to translate more.

Character Tuesday: The Happiest Yoga Instructor

I took my camera to Abbotsford Convent on afternoon last fall in Melbourne. Practicing photography with my friends, we sat down to eat at Lentils As Anything, a vegan, pay-what-you-can buffet restaurant. The staff, who are all volunteers, are all ages and backgrounds, but often backpackers dressed in colorful, vintage clothes.

One waiter (pictured above) saw me taking photos and, despite his busy shift, posed for several shots. He was from Japan, but I can’t remember his name. After he posed, he invited us to his weekly pay-what-you-can yoga class on the lawn in the same convent. He smiled calmly as he walked with a lightness in his step and made each person feel welcome in his space.

The next week, I went back for his yoga class. When I looked around for me, the other volunteers told me he was at an immigration appointment. The next week, I left Melbourne, so I never got to his class.

This post is part of weekly series titled Character Tuesday, where every Tuesday I bring you a story about (a) unique individual(s) I’ve encountered. Like I always say, life can be good or bad, but as long as it’s entertaining, that’s all you need. This series is meant to celebrate our quirks and idiosyncrasies.

 

Character Tuesday: Barrow Creek Pub Barman

 

I walked up to Barrow Creek Pub stuffing Tim Tams in my mouth. I saw a balding, middle-aged man in a casual T-shirt in front of me. I licked the melting chocolate off the finger of my right hand and held out the sleeve of biscuits in the other. “Do you want a Tim Tam?” I asked him. “No, thank you,” he said as he went inside the door.

On my way in, I said hello to two people in denim outfits sitting at the table outside, drinking cans of beer. There were dim neon lights bringing a subtle glow to the woman’s face, framed by a short box-cut hairdo. I noticed she was stocky and serious, her greeting was warm.  As I followed him in to find my friends, I saw him grab a can a beer. No Tim Tams necessary here. 

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Inside Barrow Creek Roadhouse

It was by accident that my travel mates and I made our way there. We needed gas and considering the isolation and uncertainty of the outback, considered it a safe bet to top up before the 88km it would take to reach Ti Tree. We joked that this was the time we were going to be brutally murdered in the outback, stopping at dusk in a town that was only as a big as its telegraph station. But as soon as I walked through the door of the roadhouse and scanned my eyes around the room, I realized that we were not going to get murdered here but instead be one of the thousands and thousands of tourists who are lucky to meet Michael. The man who refused my Tim Tams. (I guess if you’re Australian they’re not such a novelty…)

While I was out stuffing my face, he had already started to impress the German boys I was traveling with. Name dropping important German figures and spitting off soccer statistics and beating their knowledge of German history, my mates stood smiling, almost incredulous. He pointed to German paraphernalia and took out souvenirs that – after over 40 years of tourists gifting things the pub – had amassed into shelves and drawers of excess. He walked us over to the back of the pub, where above the doorway he hung a license plate from West Berlin.

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He finished talking to the Germans and asked where I was from. “How well do you know your presidents?” he followed up. I mentally covered my face in my hands because I knew this was going to be another time when I was shown up on my own country’s history by someone who’s never even visited. He spoke passionately and quickly about conspiracy theories involving JFK and Lincoln, the Freemasons and who’s really going to be on the face of the U.S. bank notes.

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It only took me five minutes of sauntering around the pub to judge him as the man who appears to hold endless knowledge. The man who is friends with everyone but sits alone behind you at trivia and answers questions like, “What was the second name of the platypus’s third cousin in the children’s book written in Boise, Idaho in 1957 but later remade into a one-hit wonder in 1988 and referenced in the most recent Tarentino movie?”

He stood behind the counter, taking coins and notes from different countries, quizzing me on what I knew about all 50 states. He was the only moving figure around a seeming trash dump of still memories – snakes in jars above the mantle, two panties from Nigerian women hanging off the wall, worn-down passport photos of tourists who probably look nothing like they once did when they passed through these doors.

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He works behind the same counter, day after day, year after year. He’s seen thousands of tourists. Yet still, he was full of energy, excitement and pride. He struck me as the person who doesn’t talk all the time, but when prompted, can give a spontaneous 20 minute monologue. Working behind that counter, his life is surrounded by cowboys, skippies (kangaroos) and cattle stations. He may stay in the physical confines of Barrow Creek, but he has the awareness of the entire world reverberating all around him.

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Read more about the Barrow Creek Pub and its history here.

Featured photo: The Barrow Creek Roadhouse view from the bathroom. Two locals listen to music and drink beer at the end of the day. 

This post is part of weekly series titled Character Tuesday, where every Tuesday I bring you a story about (a) unique individual(s) I’ve encountered. Like I always say, life can be good or bad, but as long as it’s entertaining, that’s all you need. This series is meant to celebrate our quirks and idiosyncrasies.

Character Tuesday: Budge, The Man With The Owl Wallet

There’s always this moment with strangers. This moment when they finally make their move after you see them eyeing you. You see their wheels churning, calculating the perfect opportunity to wiggle their way into your space. While in Cairns, that moment was asking if my friend and I wanted a photo together after he had been lurking close behind us for several blocks.

For Budge, a 45-year-old Melbournian with a missing tooth, that moment was asking us if we liked owls.

His question wasn’t random. He may have been a “junkie,” been high on a substance or just odd, but he wasn’t born yesterday. (I know that for a fact. He asked me to guess his age, so I know for sure he’s 45. Which means he was born 45 years ago. He only looks his age, he claimed “because his brother was an alcoholic.”) He waited for my friend and I to pull our bulky suitcases across Dandenong Road and roll them down the tram stop walkway. We sat down and he started pacing, talking to his homely friend with a gray pixie cut at the bench next to ours just to make it seem like he wasn’t eavesdropping on our chatter.

“Do you like owls?” he asked, stopping his pacing in front of us. He held up a pink and orange faux-leather wallet. It had an owl on the front. “I’d give it to my mom but she don’t deserve it.”

We tried to politely decline but he just shrugged and said, “I was just trying to give this perfectly good wallet to you.”

Like most people who you’ve read about on this weekly series, Budge was also curious about where we were from. Opening the conversation, the question of ‘where our accents were from’ took us for a ride where we got to hear his views of the workforce (according to him, the worst part about working in hospitality is the amount of “inexperienced 22-year-old girls with an ash tray group mentality”), leadership strategy (“…you’ve to delegate, put them in the worst position possible and you’ll see how much they actually want it!”) and even politics (“I always vote for Greens, because they’re anti-labour and anti-liberal and the only ones thinking outside the box, because there is no box!”).

Our casual banter was innocent, even informative – to a certain extent. He warned us that, as he’s lived his whole life in St. Kilda, we shouldn’t go there. He even went so far as to tell us to cover up, because the boys will try to take advantage. While I appreciated his protectiveness, I didn’t appreciate his victim blaming.

He then started to explain the area’s shifting demographics when I heard his friend from behind holler, “It’s a Rhino!”

“No, it’s a W class!” he shouted back. We looked to our right and saw the tram approaching. As it slowed down near us, he pointed towards Balaclava, Caufield and down towards St. Kilda. “This is the start of the ghetto,” he said. “What do you mean?” I questioned him. I was praying it wasn’t what I thought he meant. Those areas of Melbourne have high Jewish populations.  “You know,” he said, confirming my suspicions, “the Jewish quarters.” I put my head in my hands.

The tram doors sprung opened and we stood up and threw our suitcases up the stairs. Later, during the ride, I noticed I didn’t have the owl wallet. I asked my friend if she’d seen it.

“I saw it drop as we got on the tram. I didn’t pick it up on purpose,” she explained.

Featured photo: Luna Park in St. Kilda. 

This post is part of weekly series titled Character Tuesday, where every Tuesday I bring you a story about (a) unique individual(s) I’ve encountered. Like I always say, life can be good or bad, but as long as it’s entertaining, that’s all you need. This series is meant to celebrate our quirks and idiosyncrasies.

 

Character Tuesday: The Man On The Darwin Bus With A 175 IQ

Around 8:45am, I sat on a bench at Casuarina Square waiting for the bus. Besides myself and my new acquaintance who just recently moved here from India, there were only a few aimless people roaming around. There might have been more,  but the passed out drunks let their bodies lay limp in the shade.

A man walked past me slowly, dragging his dirt-covered, worn down flip flops on the ground. Carrying a Woolworth’s bag in one hand and a “coke bottle” in another, he stared at me with gentle bug eyes, magnified by his thick glasses.

Sitting down at the bench next to me, I noticed that, just like his flip flops, he looked worn down. The skin covering his skeleton-like body was patched either with dirt or sun damage. The ripped fabric on his shirt and stained denim vest looked like it smelled stale of dried blood and urine.  Despite his gray hair and beard, there was something youthful about his demeanor.

“Strawberry?” he interrupted my friend and I, holding out a plastic carton filled with the fruit. I haven’t bought strawberries since being in Australia. They are around $5-6 AU for a handful. Considering this, I gladly accepted.

“Thank you,” I said after finishing it, “It was so delicious.” Just as I threw the stem away, the number 4 bus pulled up. I hopped on and my new friend and I continued our conversation about employers in Australia taking advantage of foreign workers. The strawberries man sat near the back of the bus, but overhearing the conversation he caught my eye and moved closer to sit behind me.

“It’s not just foreigners, its Australians too,” he said. I acknowledged his contribution but continued to speak with my friend. As soon as he heard a break in our conversation the strawberries man jumped in, asking me where I was from. When I asked the question in return, he replied with a confusing name, spoken quickly. It was the kind of odd old English fused with an aboriginal name that was hard to remember. “But I’ve been living on an island,” he clarified, “with only around 130 people living there.”

When he asked specifics on where in the U.S. I was from, I said “Indiana” and followed it by my usual addition: “sort of in the middle,” I always say, just to give people some context. He huffed a bit and said, “Just ‘cause I live on an island doesn’t mean I’m stupid.” Then he added, “and I don’t let them take advantage of me,” in reference to our earlier conversation of workplace exploitation.

I looked over at my new Punjabi friend who looked slightly nervous as I talked to this man. In my experience, foreigners are really uncomfortable with rough-looking Australians and don’t like that I don’t mind engaging with them.

Despite my friend’s concerned look, I commented on how smart he was for avoiding such situations with employers.

“Well I’ve got an IQ of 175,” he shrugged. I nodded and after a few moments of silence he said, “You’ll probably be about average.”

“Hmm,” I nodded again, smiling a bit. He continued, “Most people are about 135, you’d probably be around there. That’s average.” I didn’t know quite what else to say to him, so I sat without speaking. Suddenly I got a call  from my friend Erin and after hanging up with her, I noticed he has retreated to the back of the bus.

He was sitting far away from me, but over the roar and creaking of the bus, I could hear his indiscriminate mumbling.

Featured photo taken from Facebook. 

This post is part of weekly series titled Character Tuesday, where every Tuesday I bring you a story about (a) unique individual(s) I’ve encountered. Like I always say, life can be good or bad, but as long as it’s entertaining, that’s all you need. This series is meant to celebrate our quirks andidiosyncrasies.

 

Character Tuesday: The RSA Teacher Of Our Dreams

“You know what the young people are saying nowadays,” she said, raising her eyebrows, “eating is cheating!”

Meet Leanne, our Responsible Service of Alcohol (RSA) class instructor who was not only in-the-know about naughty tricks the youth of Victoria do to get drunker quicker, but admitted that she herself wasn’t innocent, either. At first glance, she is your average 42-year-old, economically stable suburban mom. She wore a blue button down shirt, jeans and had her blond hair pulled back.

Sometimes she goes out with her friends. One of them in particular never gets let into the clubs. Why? She’s blind drunk by the time they reach the entrance. She also mentioned she had another friend who literally drops wine glasses when she drinks too much. Actually just lets them slip out of her hands and break all over the floor. (I later found that I had written in my booklet “Leanne has friends that drop wine glasses.”) One friend prevents her from entering, but the other gets them kicked out. Leanne just can’t have a good time.

On that Saturday morning in February when we learned so much about Leanne, we also learned a lot about responsible alcohol. Erin and I dragged ourselves out of bed, hungover and hungry, and sprinted to the hospitality institute at 9:00am for our three hour RSA class. Leanne managed to keep an entire classroom of people entertained at such an early time… for three hours.

After we watched a video sponsored by the Victorian government on just how much Aussies love to drink, she agreed on all counts. “As you can tell, we love to drink,” she explained, shrugging her shoulders as if to say, we just can’t help ourselves. She then lectured us the need to promote a good time- but responsibly. There are measures that a business can take in order to maintain a safe working environment and make money. That way they don’t let the horrific things happen like, “people are just standing there, getting assaulted.”

Leanne taught us the most important things we would need to know: the difference between a schooner, a pot and a pint, the measures or “jiggers” used to measure 15 and 30 ml of alcohol (coincidentally the same measures we use at the restaurant I work at to ration salad dressing) and most importantly, how to control rowdy groups and inappropriate patrons by blaming the fact they get kicked out on the bouncer. “I just tell them, ‘sorry, mate, but the bouncer won’t let you stay. If it was up to me, I’d let you,’” she told us. Cheeky!

Even though Leanne knew how to command a crowd despite the D.A.R.E.-esque content (with its Australian twist of actually celebrating alcohol) of the class, my notes were still littered with scribbles that Erin and I passed to each other out of boredom. Erin wrote things like “I’m not in in the mood for Indian (too soon) but I wonder if we can find anything else as cheap” and “are you hungry? I want to eat.”

Some of the notes weren’t indicative of being distracted. Others complemented the class, I noticed as I flipped through my book. If Leanne was enthusiastic about an idea, so was I. Under the section that explains that cold showers, black coffee, vomiting, and urinating don’t help you sober up, I wrote, “NO!!!!”

Where the booklet indicated drinking more than four standard drinks on a single occasion causes injury, I scratched in big, thick letters, “THAT’S A BINGE!” with an arrow pointing to the “4.” In the section about minors being allowed to drink on the premises (in Victoria, yes if they are eating a meal and with an adult), I vandalized a girl’s forehead with “I’M 16,” circled another one’s braces and next to the last kid’s mouth I drew a speech bubble that said “I hate the fun police!!! Boooo! KIDS CAN DRANK!!!”

Most certainly, all of that gusto was transmitted directly from Leanne. She left us with one piece of advice that I’ll never forget.

If you want people to drink responsibly, then, “don’t tell girls they get free drinks if they take their shirts off.”

You heard it first.

This post is part of weekly series titled Character Tuesday, where every Tuesday I bring you a story about (a) unique individual(s) I’ve encountered. Like I always say, life can be good or bad, but as long as it’s entertaining, that’s all you need. This series is meant to celebrate our quirks andidiosyncrasies.